Why Love Should Be FLAWSOME - by Libby Babet
Posted on 16 March 2015
Our Ambassador Libby Babet touches on why you should stop being so hard on yourself and embrace FLAWSOME love.
I believe that love, for both yourself and others, should be simple. Just love and expect love in return, without any expectations about what that means.
Whether you see someone once a day or once a year, whether you disagree with them one day and celebrate with them the next, play with them today and work with them tomorrow, I believe what’s truly real is that which does not change.
It’s not about how busy we all are, what’s going on around us, or how our bodies have changed over time, but the love that runs beneath it all.
Recently I’ve realised how easy it is for people to forget what’s real and try to hold on to a ‘perfect’ expression of love. To so many, love of others or self is this immaculate thing that must be communicated elegantly and often, with certain rules to be followed in order for relationships (or self image) to be maintained.
But life is not perfect. We can’t control everything and love least of all. Love must be FLAWSOME. Perfect in its imperfection. Unique in each and every way it is expressed. Patient and kind, not judging and demanding. It must embrace differences and celebrate evolution. It must seek joy, not perfection.
For many years I tried to show my love perfectly to my family and friends, and to obtain a perfect body and self-image too, but now I realise FLAWSOME love is even better.
Who cares if someone close to you hasn’t called as often as you think they should have? What does an argument matter, if a current of love runs through it? Why should you ever feel guilty for skipping the gym every now and then to lie in bed with your partner, or play with your kids? And on the reverse, isn’t it ok to do the opposite and choose to put your own workout first? Is it cool that your body will change a number of times throughout your lifetime, depending on what’s going on? And can you accept that, so long as you’re healthy and happy?
This is a lesson I’m still learning; forget perfect and love yourself, your family and friends, as well as your body, FLAWSOMELY.